ConTROLLing slut shaming.

You may or may not be aware of the news back in February that the Professional Darts Corporation banned it’s use of walk-on girls and Formula 1 swiftly followed suit and banned models from the racing track who are usually referred to as ‘grid girls’.

Naturally, this was a decision which sparked confusion and debate among many women AND men. It seemed that the decision to get rid of the use of promotional models in sports was coming from a female minority and not the actual models themselves who worked in the environment.

I think that, as a general rule, we should be empowered enough to be proud of ourselves and our bodies. If that translates into working and making money whether that’s as a ring girl, a model, a burlesque performer, a catwalk model or even a stripper then that choice should be absolutely at the discretion of the female in question and all that I hope for is that the worker feels safe and has a non-discriminatory work environment to thrive in.

As someone who has worked in one or two of these environments before, I can honestly say it has only boosted my confidence and provided me with a unique set of skills. Of course every individual experiences things differently but I always felt it was wonderful to be paid to be glamorous. What a compliment! Am I wrong? It was, after all, my choice to put myself forward for such a task. What are your thoughts on this?

So surely that’s it? If the individual in the line of work is happy and safe, surely that’s all that matters? For me, it comes down to choice. If a woman has a body she is proud of and enjoys the glamour of the role then it’s really no one else’s place to say she shouldn’t make money from that.

That point brings me swiftly onto the title of this piece.

I’ve seen so many body shaming comments and posts recently on social media. There’s no doubt that social media platforms have created a generation of ‘over-sharers’. For the first time, we are arriving at a resort, putting a bikini on and then immediately posing for the perfect selfie to showcase our perfect outfit tagged at the perfect location with the perfect lighting for the world to access. But with that sharing comes personal responsibility and the opportunity for unwelcome comments, body-shaming / slut shaming and dare I say, bullying.

Social media is the best and worst thing all at once.

It offers the opportunity for instant validation but also creates space in our lives for hatred from people we wouldn’t even have known existed before.

So why do we care so much what they think?

I know there are differing opinions on what is acceptable on a public forum in terms of nudity, especially if an individual has a respected job by day but If we post a picture of our half-naked booty and we are happy with that image and someone wants to comment ‘slut’, then that is just their opinion and is ‘slut-shaming’.

We mustn’t let that affect how we portray ourselves to the world.

I would agree that sometimes my main Instagram feed looks like a collection of soft porn but it’s my choice which content I curate and as I’ve said before, you are in charge of who and what you follow. You can design a feed you are happy with. Don’t expose yourself to any content which may cause you to react negatively.

The Independent recently reported that an ex Miss Russia contestant had been the subject of trolling about her apparently oversized feet.

Body shamers took to Instagram to discuss her ‘flippers’ and questioned whether she had trouble finding shoes to fit. Thankfully, she has taken it all in her stride (sorry, lol) and even responded by posting a picture of herself wearing actual flippers. It is, like I said, her own feed and her own decision what she shares of her life.

Why should she hide her feet just because it’s the opinion of a few trolls that they are oversized compared to her body? She is her and she’s happy of who she is and what she represents.

Anyway, I have rambled on a bit as always but I would be interested to hear your opinion on body shaming or even slut shaming. We live in a confusing world where girls are being encouraged to show off their bodies but yet told to cover up.

It’s like ‘Be confident! But not that confident!’…

So the best thing to do is just be yourself, own yourself and put your best self forward to the world and next time someone has something negative to say on your Instagram, ask yourself if you really care what that person thinks…

TEWP x

 

 

 

 

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  1. I agree, I think it’s a shame that so many beautiful women have been shoved out of jobs that maybe some of them felt empowered doing. I think if you’re not coerced into it, if it was your choice then everyone else be damned. Yeah it wasn’t very diverse but neither are a lot of professions where it depends on the body, like modelling especially high fashion. If I still had the body and the opportunity to make good money for a couple of hours stood around in a bikini I’d be there like a shot. It’s nothing to do with anyone else.

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